Deborah Orr was unflinchingly true to herself. Who among us can say that?

It’s five years since one of my closest friends died. As it happens on the anniversary of her death , there was a party at mine for my eldest daughter’s birthday. Late into the night after everyone had gone home, we sat and talked of her. Had she been there that would never would have happened. She would have been dancing in my kitchen till dawn.

Here i…